mUsT bE hApPiEz!!

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( - _ - ) doN't bE bOrEd!!!
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( = . =) dOn'T bE uNhApPiEz...
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( T : T) dOn'T bE sAd!!
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( ' ; ' ) mUsT bE cUtE...
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Would you do this for someone??

A girl and guy were speeding over
100 mph on the road...

Girl: Slow down. I'm scared.
Guy: No, this is fun.
Girl: No, it's not. Please, it's too scary!
Guy: Then tell me you love me.
Girl: Fine, I love you. Slow down!
Guy: Now give me a BIG hug.
*Girl hugs him*
Guy: Can you take my helmet off & put it on
yourself? It's bugging me.

(In the paper the next day):
A motorcycle had crashed into a building because
of break failure. 2 people were on it, but only
1 survived.

The truth was that halfway down the road, the
guy realized that his breaks broke, but he didn't
want to let the girl know. Instead, he had her
say she loved him & felt her hug 1 last time,
then had her wear his helmet so that she would
live even though it meant that he would die.

Dilemma

scratching head to choose between
opportunity for establishing a good long term career with financial source, with prospect of good advancement
or
opportunity for exposure overseas training, "managing", organizing, but no plans for advancement

jus surfing forum n trampled upon this phrase :)

Humans are greedy by nature.

Just that how far will we go to achieve our aim?

倔强

当我和世界不一样那就让我不一样
坚持对我来说就是以刚克刚
我如果对自己妥协如果对自己说谎
即使别人不原谅我也不能原谅
最美的愿望一定最疯狂
我就是我自己的神在我活的地方
我和我最后的倔强握紧双手绝对不放
下一站是不是天堂就算失望不能绝望
我和我骄傲的倔强我在风中大声的唱
这一次为自己疯狂就这一次我和我的倔强

对爱我的人别紧张我的固执很善良
我的手越肮脏眼神越是发光
你不在乎我的过往看到了我的翅膀
你说被火烧过才能出现凤凰
逆风的方向更适合飞翔
我不怕千万人阻挡只怕自己投降
我和我最后的倔强握紧双手绝对不放
下一站是不是天堂就算失望不能绝望
我和我骄傲的倔强我在风中大声的唱
这一次为自己疯狂就这一次我和我的倔强
就这一次让我大声唱
lalalala...
就算失望不能绝望...
lalalalala...
就这一次我和我的倔强

sucky movies

wasted my time watching 【双龙记】
crap!

Daywatch

i awaits this

to convert from Aggressiveness to Assertiveness

Assertiveness

Do you often find that others coerce you into thinking their way? Is it difficult for you to express your positive or negative feelings openly and honestly? Do you sometimes lose control and become angry at others who don't warrant it?

A "yes" answer to any of the above questions may be an expression of a common problem known as "lack of assertiveness."
What is Assertiveness?

Assertiveness is the ability to express yourself and your rights without violating the rights of others. It is appropriately direct, open, and honest communication which is self-enhancing and expressive. Acting assertively will allow you to feel self-confident and will generally gain you the respect of your peers and friends. It can increase your chances for honest relationships, and help you to feel better about yourself and your self-control in everyday situations. This, in turn, will improve your decision-making ability and possibly your chances of getting what you really want from life.

"Assertiveness basically means the ability to express your thoughts and feelings in a way that clearly states your needs and keeps the lines of communication open with the other" (The Wellness Workbook, Ryan and Travis). However, before you can comfortably express your needs, you must believe you have a legitimate right to have those needs. Keep in mind that you have the following rights:

* The right to decide how to lead your life. This includes pursuing your own goals and dreams and establishing your own priorities.
* The right to your own values, beliefs, opinions, and emotions -- and the right to respect yourself for them, no matter the opinion of others.
* The right not to justify or explain your actions or feelings to others.
* The right to tell others how you wish to be treated.
* The right to express yourself and to say "No," "I don't know," "I don't understand," or even "I don't care." You have the right to take the time you need to formulate your ideas before expressing them.
* The right to ask for information or help -- without having negative feelings about your needs.
* The right to change your mind, to make mistakes, and to sometimes act illogically -- with full understanding and acceptance of the consequences.
* The right to like yourself even though you're not perfect, and to sometimes do less than you are capable of doing.
* The right to have positive, satisfying relationships within which you feel comfortable and free to express yourself honestly -- and the right to change or end relationships if they don't meet your needs.
* The right to change, enhance, or develop your life in any way you determine.

When you don't believe you have these rights -- you may react very passively to circumstances and events in your life. When you allow the needs, opinions, and judgments of others to become more important than your own, you are likely to feel hurt, anxious, and even angry. This kind of passive or nonassertive behavior is often indirect, emotionally dishonest and self-denying.

Many people feel that attending to their legitimate needs and asserting their rights translates to being selfish. Selfishness means being concerned about only your rights, with little or no regard for others. Implicit in your rights is the fact that you are concerned about the legitimate rights of others as well.
Selfishness and Aggressiveness

When you behave selfishly, or in a way that violates the rights of others, you are, in fact, acting in a destructive, aggressive manner --rather than in a constructive, assertive manner. There is a very fine line that divides the two manners of action.

Aggressiveness means that you express your rights but at the expense, degradation, or humiliation of another. It involves being so emotionally or physically forceful that the rights of others are not allowed to surface. Aggressiveness usually results in others becoming angry or vengeful, and as such, it can work against your intentions and cause people to lose respect for you. You may feel self-righteous or superior at a particular time -- but after thinking things through, you may feel guilty later.
What Assertiveness Will Not Do

Asserting yourself will not necessarily guarantee you happiness or fair treatment by others, nor will it solve all your personal problems or guarantee that others will be assertive and not aggressive. Just because you assert yourself does not mean you will always get what you want; however, lack of assertiveness is most certainly one of the reasons why conflicts occur in relationships.
Specific Techniques for Assertiveness

1. Be as specific and clear as possible about what you want, think, and feel. The following statements project this preciseness:
* "I want to..."
* "I don't want you to..."
* "Would you...?"
* "I liked it when you did that."
* "I have a different opinion, I think that..."
* "I have mixed reactions. I agree with these aspects for these reasons, but I am disturbed about these aspects for these reasons."

It can be helpful to explain exactly what you mean and exactly what you don't mean, such as "I don't want to break up over this, but I'd like to talk it through and see if we can prevent it from happening again.

Be direct. Deliver your message to the person for whom it is intended. If you want to tell Jane something, tell Jane; do not tell everyone except Jane; do not tell a group, of which Jane happens to be a member.
2. "Own" your message. Acknowledge that your message comes from your frame of reference, your conception of good vs. bad or right vs. wrong, your perceptions. You can acknowledge ownership with personalized ("I") statements such as "I don't agree with you" (as compared to "You're wrong") or "I'd like you to mow the lawn" (as compared to "You really should mow the lawn, you know"). Suggesting that someone is wrong or bad and should change for his or her own benefit when, in fact, it would please you will only foster resentment and resistance rather than understanding and cooperation.
3. Ask for feedback. "Am I being clear? How do you see this situation? What do you want to do?" Asking for feedback can encourage others to correct any misperceptions you may have as well as help others realize that you are expressing an opinion, feeling, or desire rather than a demand. Encourage others to be clear, direct, and specific in their feedback to you.

Learning to Become More Assertive

As you learn to become more assertive, remember to use your assertive "skills" selectively. It is not just what you say to someone verbally, but also how you communicate nonverbally with voice tone, gestures, eye contact, facial expression and posture that will influence your impact on others. You must remember that it takes time and practice, as well as a willingness to accept yourself as you make mistakes, to reach the goal of acting assertively. As you practice your techniques, it is often helpful to have accepting relationships and a supportive environment. People who understand and care about you are your strongest assets.

I am good!
Not yet the best,
But will be better!!!

To listen well is as powerful a means of communication and influence as to talk well.

nice movies

《非常突然》Expect The Unexpected
香港　1998年
出品：新影城
制作：银河映像
编剧：司徒锦源 游乃海 周燕娴
导演：游达志
主演：刘青云 任达华 许绍雄 蒙嘉慧
片长：87分钟
获得香港影评会最佳编剧奖

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directors to look out for 杜琪峰 游乃海 游达志 =)
great actors in the movie 刘青云 任达华 =)

nice movie =)

Surveillance(监视) 是法文，英文的意思是“eye in the sky”，意指“跟踪”和“监视”就好比“天上的一只眼睛”，要“看”和“记下看到的一切”，不冷眼旁观，就会影响判断，过份流露感受会招致危险……

　　刑事情报科跟踪队俗称警察“狗仔队”，这批“狗仔队”的特点是样子平凡、绝不起眼，但这正有利于跟踪和监视工作。他们就好像“天上的眼睛”，冷眼旁观地把搜集到的线索，转变成破案关键。

　　“狗仔队”队长黄文展(任达华饰)带领着新人何家宝(徐子珊饰)和几名队员，正跟踪一名珠宝劫案疑犯。他们的跟踪对象陈重山(梁家辉饰)曾策划多次打劫行动，对警察有强烈的警觉，就如能感应到身旁任何警察的出现，令他多次成功避过警方的追捕。陈重山的警觉性，成了黄文展等人的一大难题。尽管天网恢恢， “狗仔队”的监视网正一步一步向陈重山收紧，但陈重山的行动却总是出乎他们的意料之外。在繁忙的香港闹市中，一场猫捉老鼠的游戏没完没了地进行着……

　　天网恢恢，陈重山终落入狗仔队的跟踪网，但山的小心成为狗仔队的难题，但狗仔队的平凡也成为山的死穴……